Posted on April 9th, 2026

When kids return from a custody exchange, they might feel overwhelmed, sad, anxious, or just be emotionally out of balance. To help them regulate, first, create a safe re-entry ritual—something calm and predictable, like a quiet snack, reading a book together, or a familiar activity they love. Don't plan anything overstimulating or exciting. They will need some time to decompress and adjust.

If they choose to open up, let them name their emotions— then use phrases like, “I see you’re feeling upset,” or “It’s okay to be sad.” Also phrases like, "That must have felt pretty hard for you" or "I understand your feelings being hurt" are helpful. Validate their emotions without placing blame on anyone.

Incorporate grounding activities—like slow breathing, drawing their emotions, cuddling together, or even a short walk. And reassure them—they’re allowed to feel all of it, and you’re there to help them process, without judgment or rush. By staying calm yourself and providing these tools, you give them a foundation to feel safe, heard, and in control of their big emotions.

Remember, these moments are not just about their behavior—they’re about reconnection. By offering a steady, calm presence, you help them regulate and remind them they are safe, no matter where they’ve been.

For more tools to help your children through transition times, book a session with me.